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We surround ourselves with worries. How to stop worrying and start living our life? Worries related to our family life, professional life, or financial life. One of the worst impacts of worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate. When we worry, our minds jump here and there and everywhere, and we lose all power of decision-making.
Worry in Life
Most of the time we keep on worrying about situations, which never occurred in our life. It’s psychologically connected to our subconscious mind. When we worried about any part of our life, our subconscious mind keeps on flashing such incidents, and our intensity of worries increases.
What is the end result, such worries remain all the time in our mind. We become less productive and missing happy moments of our life.
What is the Solution?
I keep on citing various book references in my blogs. Books are the treasure house for any subject. If you want to improve any part of your life, keep reading related books.
Many a time, we could not get the desired direction from only one book. But you will definitely get the result after reading a few books on that subject. Books are basically the best coach. To understand human psychology and its connection to richness & wealth, I have read more than 100 books on this subject. I have gained a lot of wisdom and keep on applying that in my life.
Here I am going to share one real-life example cited in the book ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’ by Dale Carnegie. The writer shares one of the best techniques to stop worrying.
“Would you like a quick, sure-fire recipe for handling worry situations—a technique you can start using right away?
Then let me tell you about the method worked out by Willis H Carrier, the brilliant engineer who launched the air-conditioning industry and who headed the world-famous Carrier Corporation, in Syracuse, New York. It is one of the best techniques I ever heard of for solving worry problems, and I got it from Mr. Carrier personally when we were having lunch together one day at the Engineers’ Club in New York.
Worry at Workplace
“When I was a young man,” Mr. Carrier said, “I worked for the Buffalo Forge Company in Buffalo, New York. I was handed the assignment of installing a gas-cleaning device in a plant of the Pittsburgh Plate Glass Company at Crystal City, Missouri—a plant costing millions of dollars. The purpose of this installation was to remove the impurities from the gas so it could be burned without injuring the engines. This method of cleaning gas was new. It had been tried only once before—and under different conditions. In my work at Crystal City, Missouri, unforeseen difficulties arose. It worked after a fashion—but not well enough to meet the guarantee we had made.”
“I was stunned by my failure. It was almost as if someone had struck a blow on my head. My stomach and my insides began to twist and turn. For a while, I was so worried I couldn’t sleep.”
“Finally, common sense reminded me that worry wasn’t getting me anywhere; so I figured out a way to handle my problem without worrying. It worked superbly. I have been using this same anti-worry technique for more than thirty years. It is simple. Anyone can use it. It consists of three steps:
Action Step I:
I analyzed the situation fearlessly, honestly, and figured out what was the worst that could possibly happen as a result of this failure. No one was going to jail me or shoot me. That was certain. True, there was also a chance that I would lose my position, and there was also a chance that my employers would have to remove the machinery and lose the twenty thousand dollars we had invested.
Action Step II:
After figuring out what was the worst that could possibly happen, I reconciled myself to accepting it, if necessary. I said to myself: This failure will be a blow to my record, and it might possibly mean the loss of my job; but if it does, I can always get another position. Conditions could be much worse; and as far as my employers are concerned—well, they realize that we are experimenting with a new method of cleaning gas, and if this experience costs them twenty thousand dollars, they can stand it. They can charge it up to research, for it is an experiment.
“After discovering the worst that could possibly happen and reconciling myself to accepting it, if necessary, an extremely important thing happened: I immediately relaxed and felt a sense of peace that I hadn’t experienced in days.
Action Step III:
From that time on, I calmly devoted my time and energy to trying to improve upon the worst which I had already accepted mentally.
“I now tried to figure out ways and means by which I might reduce the loss of twenty thousand dollars that we faced. I made several tests and finally figured out that if we spent another five thousand on additional equipment, our problem would be solved. We did this, and instead of the firm losing twenty thousand, we made fifteen thousand.
“I probably would never have been able to do this if I had kept on worrying. However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally, we then eliminate all these vague imaginings and put ourselves in a position in which we are able to concentrate on our problem.
“This incident that I have related occurred many years ago. It worked so superbly that I have been using it ever since; and, as a result, my life has been almost completely free from worry.”
“After facing the worst,” Willis H Carrier reported, “I immediately relaxed and felt a sense of peace that I hadn’t experienced in days. From that time on, I was able to think.”
Makes sense, doesn’t it? Yet millions of people have wrecked their lives in angry turmoil because they refused to accept the worst; refused to try to improve upon it; refused to salvage what they could from the wreck.
You can share your experience when applying the above principle of ‘how to stop worrying and start living in any of the worrisome situations.
When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
– Winston Churchill
